One of the things that make this world full of joy is the never ending concept of love. In teens especially there have been studies that show how a teen really sees his or her relationship. What is it that makes it so alluring? How is it a problem among teens? What results will it have? People everywhere are always talking about their relationships with someone or how they can’t seem to get one. Why are people always talking about it? And is it really that big of a deal? Well I am definitely not an expert on the subject but I have done my research on it and will attempt to explain how it works and why it even exists. People have asked themselves what is love? No one so far has been able to answer this question with an answer that satisfies everyone that listens but it is fairly simple to be explained by teens or their version. Teens tend to have more troubles with relationships and seem to talk about it all the time. it influences their judgment and makes them think in a different way than a regular adult. What changes the way teens see their relationships?
Well to put it down scientifically teens feeling of love in their relationships is simply hormonal. Them turning sexually active and pairing off with a mate is actually a very normal part of nature that tells a being when to reproduce. The rest of the feeling of love is purely coincidental with the actions that are chosen by both of the mates. It may sound really bad when you want to be so black and white about it but that is basically the way it works. In our society it is something very important that everyone has to have, although it is not absolutely necessary for an individual’s to sustain his life and in some ways will not improve their life quality. One of the only things that teen relationships actually help is a person’s mental and emotional condition. By learning the way the mind works and helping them develop sharper social skills that might help them make their future relationship work better that it did before. This is why people usually get married later in their life because they have best experience at this point and they know what to expect. It is a proven fact that girls are way more emotional than boys. This is known because when a girl is in a relationship she sees the relationship as something more serious than it really is or than the boy of the relationship. If you ask the guy how long he thinks his relationship will last you will hear, “I don’t know, like 3 months”. When in a girl’s case she would say,”forever”.
When I was little I never really learned a lot about girls and relationships. I guess mainly because I never took that much interest in learning about girls. They seemed like really weird aliens of another species that lived on earth, io know it is strange but come on I was like what 7 or 8. But eventually I started to learn things by seeing others like my friends and my family. They taught me that I should always think about the other’s needs before your owns, also that I should always be as nice as I can when I am near a girl. Well back then these things seemed like a formality and something that was expected of you so I followed these strange rules blindly. Never did I question, eve to this day it is as natural to me as breathing. Some girls tell me I am too nice and I always tell them that it is just the way I was razed.
I have experienced this development when I went out with a girl in 9th grade. Although a lot of people had bad thoughts about her I always thought she was cool. In the end it did not work out because I was too shy around her and she didn’t think I was serious enogh for her so she eventually broke up with me. I felt devastated and sad but as the year went on I reflected on what I did wrong and I knew that I was too shy around girls. So the next time I went out ith some one later that year I tried my best to keep her happy but she was distant towards me and I thought that I must’ve been too shy towards her too so in paranoia I tried to be more enthusiastic about our physical contact. Thinking I had been doing alright with her and making her happy I later discovered from talking in the hallway that she was planning to break up with me at lunch. So I tried to evade her wherever I went. I did not think that I could take another break up so early. But eventually I gave up and faced her and she did as I expected. Later I could not find what I did wrong and eventually I realized that I was being too pushy and she didn’t feel comfortable. I felt like a total idiot for thinking I did right, but I had to know for sure. I went to her later to ask why she broke up with me and yet again my thoughts were right. Eventually I just gave up trying and accepted that I needed to work on my social skills first before I went out with anyone. This experience did help me understand how to act around of people and what I can do to better myself.
So in conclusion relationships are a part of life we could live with out but we prefer not to. The relationship is different on each of the member’s points of view. It can be a painful experience but enjoyable non-the less. And we can always learn from our mistakes in our past relationships to help us with future ones.
Well to put it down scientifically teens feeling of love in their relationships is simply hormonal. Them turning sexually active and pairing off with a mate is actually a very normal part of nature that tells a being when to reproduce. The rest of the feeling of love is purely coincidental with the actions that are chosen by both of the mates. It may sound really bad when you want to be so black and white about it but that is basically the way it works. In our society it is something very important that everyone has to have, although it is not absolutely necessary for an individual’s to sustain his life and in some ways will not improve their life quality. One of the only things that teen relationships actually help is a person’s mental and emotional condition. By learning the way the mind works and helping them develop sharper social skills that might help them make their future relationship work better that it did before. This is why people usually get married later in their life because they have best experience at this point and they know what to expect. It is a proven fact that girls are way more emotional than boys. This is known because when a girl is in a relationship she sees the relationship as something more serious than it really is or than the boy of the relationship. If you ask the guy how long he thinks his relationship will last you will hear, “I don’t know, like 3 months”. When in a girl’s case she would say,”forever”.
When I was little I never really learned a lot about girls and relationships. I guess mainly because I never took that much interest in learning about girls. They seemed like really weird aliens of another species that lived on earth, io know it is strange but come on I was like what 7 or 8. But eventually I started to learn things by seeing others like my friends and my family. They taught me that I should always think about the other’s needs before your owns, also that I should always be as nice as I can when I am near a girl. Well back then these things seemed like a formality and something that was expected of you so I followed these strange rules blindly. Never did I question, eve to this day it is as natural to me as breathing. Some girls tell me I am too nice and I always tell them that it is just the way I was razed.
I have experienced this development when I went out with a girl in 9th grade. Although a lot of people had bad thoughts about her I always thought she was cool. In the end it did not work out because I was too shy around her and she didn’t think I was serious enogh for her so she eventually broke up with me. I felt devastated and sad but as the year went on I reflected on what I did wrong and I knew that I was too shy around girls. So the next time I went out ith some one later that year I tried my best to keep her happy but she was distant towards me and I thought that I must’ve been too shy towards her too so in paranoia I tried to be more enthusiastic about our physical contact. Thinking I had been doing alright with her and making her happy I later discovered from talking in the hallway that she was planning to break up with me at lunch. So I tried to evade her wherever I went. I did not think that I could take another break up so early. But eventually I gave up and faced her and she did as I expected. Later I could not find what I did wrong and eventually I realized that I was being too pushy and she didn’t feel comfortable. I felt like a total idiot for thinking I did right, but I had to know for sure. I went to her later to ask why she broke up with me and yet again my thoughts were right. Eventually I just gave up trying and accepted that I needed to work on my social skills first before I went out with anyone. This experience did help me understand how to act around of people and what I can do to better myself.
So in conclusion relationships are a part of life we could live with out but we prefer not to. The relationship is different on each of the member’s points of view. It can be a painful experience but enjoyable non-the less. And we can always learn from our mistakes in our past relationships to help us with future ones.
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